Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Heart : Engaged

So last Tuesday, I randomly declared as "No TV Tuesday."  I don't think hubby and I watch a terrible amount of television, but when we need to unwind at the end of the day, we easily tune everything out and veg in front of our favorite shows.  

In honor of "No TV Tuesday" we decided to take Blakely for a walk to get froyo at our favorite yogurt shop downtown.  It didn't exactly end up being the peaceful walk I had hoped it would be {I forgot it was market night and dogs aren't allowed & hubby got stung by a bee on the way - ha!}, but we came away with funny stories, a great memory and I feel it set the tone for how we spent our time together during the week to come.  We were engaged.

It's so easy to tune people out and not really hear them.  We're great talkers & doers but not so great listeners.  I know I'm guilty of instagramming, tweeting or e-mailing while half listening to hubby's day, or while catching up on the phone with family.  Not only do I miss out on half of the conversation, but I'm missing out on an opportunity to enjoy these precious relationships.

This weekend was wonderful as the "no tv" trend continued.  Hubby and I went for a run together {well, he left me in the dust actually...haha I trailed behind - these Cali hills get me!} along this beach....




And then we decided to take advantage of the sunshine and have a picnic lunch in the park....


{my gfree organic turkey sandwich - yum!}

{so much sunshine!}

We did our grocery shopping together, we did dinner, a movie and card games with sweet friends and we showed hubby's sister and boyfriend around Monterey.  It was a packed weekend {and I'm a bit exhausted - still} but it was so nice to truly engage in the life that lays before me. 

I think "No TV Tuesday" just may become a weekly occurrence in our home!  I encourage you to give it a try. :)

{Blakely's pooped too!}

Lots of love....



- images via danya collyer

Monday, July 23, 2012

Honest Housewife : No longer babes

Dearest Friend,
Here's a pic of baby me and my wonderful Mama.
Hard to believe that I was once so small... No one's holding me like that anymore ;)
Step by step, day after day, we grow up, change, become people who truly affect the lives of others, either for the better or worse...
When we were younger, little babes, and children, and adolescent 'hooligans', the things we would say and do had less of an impact than they would as coming from an adult. Of course they mattered, but not to the same degree.
With years of added knowledge and age comes an expected care, consideration and awareness for the people around us.
These days, when my sweet Hunter or Emerson yell at me because they are hungry, I obviously don't get upset at them for 'treating me that way'. When they get mad or frustrated and make grumpy faces, causing all to be aware of their unhappiness, I don't take offense.
If I were to do those things, at the age of 27, I'd be absolutely embarrassed!!
But wait a second... raising my voice because I 'need' something different? I don't do that... right? Oh wait, I have done that. Am I ever so miserable with my surroundings that I make it clear to friends and family near by? No... or actually, yes...
"I'd be absolutely embarrassed".
The sad thing is, we normally don't treat strangers and acquaintances with such little respect. It's those that are closest to us. Or at least that's how it is for me.
I don't have the excuse anymore of being an infant, unable to communicate with kindness and patients.
My reason for being rude {which it's obviously not even called 'rude' when an infant acts in such a way}, is that I'm selfish, thinking of me and my desires rather than the feelings of anyone else.
The closest person to me is my Husband, and I know that there have been days where in my 'grumpiness', I take it out on him. When I'm unhappy, I don't always treat him with the love and respect that I should. Writing this, I'm realizing that I owe him an apology. Or two.
No matter whats happening, I'm responsible for my actions. Every single day, I strive to be more like Christ. Asking for Him to live through me, to love through me and to shine in a way that I can't when I'm exhausted...
But there are times where I don't let Him help me. Moments where I take over and get ugly and self focused and unpleasant. And in those hours, I tend to revert back into my immature, childlike ways and again, there is no good excuse.
I want to be a woman who treats others with a beautiful and selfless love. Setting aside my emotions and recognizing that who ever it is before me is important and deserving of a gentle word or smile.
I want to be a wife who's lips spill praise and thanksgiving rather than words of discontent.
....
There's nothing more to say really... with those last words, all I can think now is that action must follow. "I'm sorry"s are in order. This was a good reminder for me. Not sure where this all came from...
It's just spilled out as I began to type.
My Love is sleeping right now, but I plan on snuggling up to him as soon as I'm done here and telling him that I'm sorry!

Jamie, Bekkah, Alicia: Thanks for your sweet comments last Monday! All of your words meant a lot to me and I was encouraged by each of you.

Happy Monday Sweet Friends!!
Now go out there and be kind, we're not babes anymore {not an infant babe at least... babes as in good looking, that we are!}.
xoxo


Monday, June 4, 2012

Honest Housewife : The Fight of a Lifetime



Dearest Friend,

Yesterday, as I stood staring at myself in the mirror, I could clearly see the different marks of Motherhood that graced my face.
Mascara smeared across each cheek, small dark circles had found their place beneath my eyes, and my hair, normally curled with a good amount of volume was flat and sadly limp.
Oddly enough, this sight brought a great deal of joy to my heart.

I am in the trenches! In the thick of an all consuming mission, and these ‘battle wounds’ say that I’m fighting, working hard and rising to the challenge of a lifetime!
It’s incredibly overwhelming and has the potential to be defeating, or absolutely empowering.

The role of a Mother is not one to take lightly. We live, breath, eat and sleep around the world of our children.
We strive to raise a new generation; one better than the last, and there isn’t a set guidebook in doing so. We’re going off of intuition, off of the way we were raised, and soaking in wisdom from those who have gone before us, tweaking things just a bit here and there as we see fit.

These last couple months have put my character to the test. Do I have what it takes? Will I make the cut? Oh wait! I don’t have a choice… and that is for me, where I muster up strength and find the courage to face each day.
God has given this to me. He believes in me and trusts that I can handle it.
Luckily, He doesn’t leave me high and dry. Instead, He is ever present and it is to Him alone that I cling.
From the Lord flows love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. I need every single one of these to fill me on a daily basis, for I know that the absence of them brings misery.

In raising children, as well as in my marriage, I must rely on God to show me how to do things appropriately.
Gosh, I want to be such a loving and selfless Mother. And I also want to be a compassionate and joyful Wife.

Those times in life, where what’s before us seams rather daunting and we struggle to find the endurance to carry on, we must go back to God. From the moment any task, mission or challenge presents itself to us, we have to start off with God as our primary source of strength.

Sadly, it’s not always our first thought to turn to Him. And if you’re anything like me, you’ll quickly find your stamina running dry when you attempt to walk forward without His presence…
Over time, I have found little ways to place myself in a situation of continual reliance upon the Lord, and that’s what I wanted to share with you today.

1.     Sing! All day, everyday. Sing songs of love and of undying devotion to the God who so magically created you.
2.     Pray! All day, everyday. Talk to Him. Out loud. In the car, while doing dishes, and within the quiet of your heart while sitting with friends.
3.     Praise! All day, everyday. While you pray, praise God for every single tiny little blessing!! For ‘every good and perfect gift is from above’.

I wasn’t made to live without Him, and neither were you… When I spend my time talking to Him, singing to Him and thanking Him for my life, the world begins to find a pleasant balance… All is as it should be.

My children will cry, and waves of frustration will sweep through my being at times… but it’s easy to push past the breakers and swim again in the calm of it all when God is stability.
Let Him be your Rock, and watch what happens. See how much farther you’ll go.

… Honestly, in writing to you, I’m beginning to see different areas of my own life that need to be surrendered to God. Primarily within my marriage as it’s been shocked into a world of new babies and new routine… The Hubs and I are not in a place of familiarity, and I could really use the Lords help in learning how to be the best Wife to him these days…

So that’s where I’m headed, to spend time drawing near to God and asking for His help. He has called me into this relationship, blessed me with the role of Wife, and is full of awesome wisdom as to how to thrive here.


I will return soon, and write to you once again.

Sincerely,
Amber Dawn

-image via amber

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

2 Years of Love & A Bright Future...

It's been a busy couple of weeks and my posting has become sporadic, but believe me when I tell you that lots of fun and exciting things are happening here in my household.

Yesterday hubby and I celebrated 2 whole years of marriage - TWO years!  I cannot believe how fast time has passed.  These truly have been the most amazing two years of my little life.  My husband is beyond amazing and our future is bright - we're looking forward to what's ahead.  To celebrate, last night we had date night at home with homemade Lemon Thyme Roasted Chicken and Potatoes and yummy homemade Chocolate Mousse with Strawberries.  I got hubby a wii (he's been wanting one for a while) and he wrote me beautiful vows (since we didn't write our own for our wedding), and gave me beautiful flowers and a ticket to the December Beth Moore conference.  I'd say it was a pretty special evening.  :)

Here are a few photos from our wedding.  Jeremy and Hara Cook from Cook Images were our photographers - they did an amazing job.  It truly was the most beautiful day of my life...take a look.













So speaking of the future - we have some news to share.  Are you ready for this??  This southern belle is packing her house (with yorkie in tow) and moving to Monterey, California!  It feels as if it's all happened so fast, I'm still trying to catch my breath, but it's an exciting season for sure.  Hubby has been offered a Creative Arts position at Calvary Montery and we couldn't be more thrilled.  I'm especially looking forward to exploring a new place, enjoying the great outdoors a bit more and making new friends.  And while I'm excited, I do have to say that it's all a bit bittersweet.  Family, friends and this little beach town are all so close to my heart, I know homesickness is on the horizon.  I'm sure you'll be seeing a lot more posts once we get settled into our new home come January 2012 - I'll need something aside from what I miss to distract me in those first few months.    

I'm thrilled we'll be home to celebrate the holidays one last time, I'm trying to soak up every moment of it.  I know it will be over before we know it.  However, if anyone has any advice on moving cross country (pods vs moving van, shipping car companies, where to find boxes, etc.) I would LOVE to know.  I'm a newbie at long distance moving.  

To celebrate our happy 2 years and to take a few days together before the packing/holiday madness begins, we're skipping town and road tripping it to either New Orleans or Atlanta this weekend - we'll decide tonight.  Thanks for all of the Happy Anniversary wishes we received yesterday & thanks for all of the support friends and family have given to our big change.  Looking forward to what's ahead.

Lots of love....

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